Sleep Like a Baby?

A Conversation with Sleep Consultant  Sacha Rendoth from Settle & Flow

It’s a beautiful morning when we arrive at Sacha Rendoth’s home. The sun is shining, and vibrant blossoms drape over the front fence. As we approach the door, the signs of a house filled with children are immediately evident—scattered toys, a well-loved family dog eager to greet us, and an air of warmth that makes you feel instantly at home.

Sacha, a certified sleep consultant, midwife, and mother of four, welcomes us with a bright smile. “I’m not used to being interviewed,” she admits with a laugh, “but I’ll give it a try.” And with that, we settle in for a conversation about something every parent grapples with: sleep.

The Myth of Sleeping Like a Baby

Our first question is an easy one—or so we think. What do you think when someone says they slept like a baby?

Sacha chuckles. “Well, that could mean two things! Either they slept deeply and peacefully, or they woke up every 40 minutes needing something.”

It’s a relatable joke for most parents. But for Sacha, sleep isn’t just a necessity—it’s a carefully studied rhythm that can be nurtured and improved.

How a Midwife Became a Sleep Consultant

When asked what led her to become a sleep consultant, Sacha explains that it all started after the birth of her fourth child. “This course almost landed in front of me, and I just felt it was the perfect fit. It aligned so well with midwifery—feed, settle, and sleep. I jumped in, and it’s been an incredible journey ever since.”

Why Sleep Matters So Much for Children

Sleep isn’t just about rest; it’s about growth and development. “Sleep gives children the space to completely surrender, allowing their bodies and brains to recharge,” Sacha explains. “Even newborns can run on adrenaline if they’re overtired, which isn’t ideal for long-term development.”

Every child’s sleep patterns are different, but there’s a natural progression from frequent naps as a newborn to more consolidated sleep as they grow. “I don’t like to call them milestones—I see it as a natural shift in needs,” she says. “Every baby is different, and what works for one might not work for another.”

The Big Debate: Cry It Out?

One of the most common (and controversial) sleep training methods is the ‘cry it out’ approach. Sacha’s stance is clear: “It’s not my go-to at all.”

While she acknowledges that it works for some, she prefers a gentle, responsive approach. “I never leave a baby to cry alone unless it’s clear that my presence is making it worse. Babies need to feel secure, and my focus is on building independence in a way that fosters confidence rather than distress.”

Safe Sleep Practices and Bedtime Routines

For parents of newborns, safety is just as important as sleep itself. Sacha advises keeping the sleep space clear for the first six months, avoiding loose toys and blankets. “Comforters can be introduced from six months, but if you’re unsure, you can always let your baby settle with one and then remove it once they’re asleep.”

And what about the ideal bedtime routine? Sacha keeps it simple: bath, getting dressed, a feed, a quiet book (not for the story, but for connection), sleep bag on, a cuddle, and then bed. “A massage is great too—it reinforces connection while helping them settle into sleep.”

Common Misconceptions About Baby Sleep

One of the biggest myths? That putting a baby to bed later will make them sleep in longer. “Actually, the opposite is true,” Sacha explains. “Earlier bedtimes often result in longer, more restful sleep.”

Another common mistake is underestimating the impact of overstimulation. “Babies, just like adults, struggle to settle when their nervous system is overstimulated. Watching for signs of tiredness and winding down properly makes a huge difference.”

When Should Parents Seek Help?

Every family reaches a tipping point when sleep deprivation becomes too much. “Some parents call me at four months when they see sleep regression coming. Others wait until their nine-month-old has been waking every hour for weeks. The key is knowing when you are ready to make a change.”

For new parents struggling with sleep deprivation, Sacha’s advice is practical: “If the baby sleeps best in the carrier, let them sleep there. If the pram works, use it. Work with what you have before trying to force something that isn’t working.”

Lessons from Motherhood

With four children of her own, Sacha has plenty of personal experience. “My first was a terrible sleeper. I tried two sleep consultants—one did cry it out, the other had me holding her all night. In the end, I took bits of advice from books and found my own way. The biggest lesson? If something doesn’t feel right, don’t do it. But also, don’t be afraid to ask for support.”

Final Thoughts: Taking the Lead with Confidence

For parents feeling lost in the sea of sleep advice, Sacha has one final piece of wisdom: “Trust yourself. But also, be confident in taking the lead. If you decide on a change, follow through with consistency. Babies follow your lead.”

And for those who need guidance, Sacha offers a simple invitation: “If you’re struggling with sleep, let’s chat. I offer a free 15-minute call—sometimes just talking it through can make a huge difference.”

You can find out more about Sacha Rendoth and Settle & Flow on her website.